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Why is the world hard for strong and good people?

judyann1984 started this conversation
Apr 23, 2009

I love my children dearly and I try to make good choices but I end up nowhere. My children's fathers turned out to be loosers even though my children were planned. I feel like I am tired of being in this world. If I am unable to take care of my children, why should I live? I tried being strong for 9 months but I just can't be anymore. I tried getting financial assistance from the state but in Utah you have to go to school or search for a job full time in order to qualify and I don't have a car and no one cares about me. There are no transportation systems where I live and daycares are clear across town. I tried to find online employment but I am unable to find any real work that makes good money without start up costs. I am at the end of my rope and I am tired in everyway. Does anyone have any ideas?

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ceriedwen5
Apr 29, 2010

judyann,i ask myself this everyday.why do good people have such sytuggles.but you are beatiful and seem healthy,dont let these bumps get in your way.you stay strong,good things will happen.do you have your health?.just remember if you want to talk there are people here who want to listen.i know i do.so for yourself your kids ...that is enough to want to keep going.they love you.they need you ......you will do better i know you will.just dont ever give up.ever.sincerly wenny,,,hugs and kisses xoxo

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Anonymous
Apr 23, 2009

It is the toughest job in the world - being a single parent. You work 24/7/365... and it doesn't get any easier.

But giving up is not an option. Your children are depending on you and only you and you have to do this for them. To show them that not only can you survive, but thrive! 

Start by going back to social services and requesting child support. Regardless of whether or not dad is a loser, he still has a financial obligation to his children and the state has an obligation to assist you in obtaining that support for your children. Also explain to your caseworker that you need transporation assistance, day care assistance and housing closer to the services available to you. 

also check out 211.org there maybe additional services in your area to help.

You may be eligible for rental assistance as well - check out hud and see if they can help - their rent works on a sliding scale - which would make it more affordable for you and your children. 

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